The extremely influential 2012 paper “Searching for a Mate: The Rise of the Internet as a Social Intermediary” by Michael J. Thomas of The City College of New York also notes that research into the internet’s impact on social dating norms was, in a word, lacking.“Scholarly debate about the social impacts of the Internet has been hampered by a lack of nationally representative data on how (or whether) people use the Internet to meet new friends or partners,” the paper explains.
Vox recently analyzed data from 35 years’ worth of wedding announcements in The New York Times, and found that “online” now ranks as the third most common way people meet — second only to “school” and “mutual friend.” In the older-than-40 age range, it creeps into the second spot. We already trust our computers to do our shopping and banking, why shouldn’t the fruits of the home computer revolution help us find love?Everyone dates, yet these sorts of studies are surprisingly few and far between.New York University Professor of sociology Eric Klinenberg, who teamed with comedian Aziz Ansari for the 2015 book told Digital Trends: “There’s just not a lot of research out there. It’s still not a major field in the social sciences.” What is out there, particularly dating back to the relative dark ages of online dating, is murky, often relying on surveys commissioned by the sites themselves. Let us instead examine the notion of the over-forties dating scrapheap, and how it applies only to ladies — you may have seen the Amy Schumer sketch Last Fuckable Day. As forty-something women, we are told how our erotic capital is somewhere between badly overdrawn and bankrupt — unless we take the following steps to make ourselves more dateworthy: Teeth whitening, bosom restructuring, forehead Botoxing, lips filling, face contouring, vagina tightening, body sculpting, nail and lash extending, wardrobe overhauling, diet restricting to include only chia and kale. Bottom feeders, hoping for any leftovers that the fresh faced, lissom twenty and thirty-something goddesses haven’t entirely devoured. Because, middle aged ladies, apparently you are dating plankton.